The First Time You Leave Your Kids

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We all have so many “first times” when we become parents: cuddling your baby for the first time, breastfeeding for the first time, your first sleepless night, your baby’s first smile…. Then, you just get used to it, and the things that you do for the first time, become your new way of life, your routine.

Since I am a mum almost everything I do is about and for my girls. For 3 years, I have never left them for more than a few hours. This is like this, I have never questioned this or tried to do in a different way. So I have never thought about “my first time” without them…

Going away for a weekend, without my girls, without my husband was quite a big challenge for me. But I decided to do this as I desperately needed some rest and I was craving for some good night sleep (my 11 months old still wakes up and eats at night). I also thought it would be good for the girls to start being more autonomous while staying with their dad and grandma. I decided to go to Vienna and see a very close friend of mine whom I have not seen for 7 years.

So what does it feel like leaving your babies for the first time, and not seeing them for 2 days?

– I chose my flight for early morning so that I can leave while the girls were still sleeping. I preferred saying goodbye the day before. I knew I would cry if they cried. But I still cried, as soon as I closed the door behind me…

– My handbag felt so light with only my purse, passport and small belongings in it. No baby nappies or baby food!

– When I went to the tube station I started looking for a lift, but then I remembered, actually I didn’t have a pushchair with me, so I took stairs.

– In the airport, while drinking coffee in Eat. cafe, I caught myself observing all the couples with kids and smiling to them.

– The best part of my trip was actually the flight itself 🙂 I always find it very stressful to travel with kids, as it is difficult to predict how they will behave. And now, I just relaxed, dozing over my book.

– When in Vienna, I could not help thinking about my girls and would text my husband several times a day to find out if they were OK.

What about you? Have you already gone on holidays without your kids? How did you feel? Feel free to share your experience 🙂

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10 thoughts on “The First Time You Leave Your Kids

  1. Really the first few years were so hard for me- I kid you not I had to pop have of an anti anxietyy pill. I also had depression and anxiety (diagnosed) soooooo….

    Now I am like “BUH BYE!”

    No issues with leaving them as long as it is with my mom.

    #thatfridaylinky

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  2. I went to Greece for a week. We hadn’t been apart for more than 8 separate nights in 9 years. I was exhausted too and needed a complete break.
    By this stage I felt light as air when the plane lifted off. ‘As prisoned birds must find in freedom winging wildly across the green orchards …’
    Thanks Siegfried Sassoon for coming to mind just now jo #KCACOLS

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  3. It’s a really tough one Im not away often but when I am I am always texting or phoning to make sure everything is ok being a parent I guess Thanks for linking to the #THAT FRIDAY LINKY come back next week please

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  4. It is always so strange to go away without my boys, I have done it a couple of times and bearing in mind they are now 8 and 11 you would think that it would get easier but I still miss them so much if I do go away. I see my friends with teenagers and they are still the same so it must be just a mum or dad thing that we all have:) Thank you so much for linking up with #mainyloveschristmas its so lovely to have you along for this one:)

    Mainy
    #mainyloveschristmas

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  5. My baby girl is only 10 months old so i havent left her overnight yet. The first time I left her was when she was 6 weeks old and it was only to pop to the dentist so was just less than an hour and I hated it. My first day back in work in October was hard. Its getting easier to leave her 9 hours a day and shes with my mum so safe and sound. But it still tares my heart out as I want to be with her all the time.

    Thanks so much for linking up at #KCACOLS. Hope you come back again next Sunday

    Happy Christmas! xx

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    • Thank you for your comment 🙂 i feel I really need to do something about her eating at night. I tried giving her water yesterday instead of milk but it didn’t work 😦 i will try reducing the quantity little by little…

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  6. Aw I can completely resonate as I travel with work sometimes and in sept I was away for nearly two weeks! I completely do the same with looking at people with babies/young kids and smiling. I ended up nattering to one mum through the flight as her little boy was only 2 or so and just wanted to walk about. it was a 12 hour flight too and I really felt for the mum. theyd made little bags for people sat near them. #KCACOLS

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  7. I’ve been away from my children a couple of times, and it is just a very strange experience! There is something quite nice about travelling alone though! x #KCACOLS

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